Having the difficult conversation you keep postponing

A short, useful read for the MyKith community.

Postponed conversations rarely improve with age. Choose a time with no audience and no deadline, say what you have noticed and how it affects you in the first person, and then stop talking and listen. The goal of the first conversation is to be understood and to understand, not to settle everything, so resist the urge to produce a solution within five minutes.

Agree on one small change each and a date to talk again. Write it down if that helps. Most hard conversations are far shorter and calmer than the weeks of dread that precede them, and the relief afterwards is usually mutual. If the same subject keeps returning without progress, a few sessions with a counsellor can shift a pattern that two people alone cannot see.

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